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Have you felt anxiety creeping up right before sex? Do you feel overtly nervous? Sex is supposed to be an enjoyable and pleasurable experience. However, at times, many of us can be too “in our heads.” This can lead to embarrassment, insecurity, and one of the major things that many talk about, performance anxiety, a common sexual concern.

 

Sexual anxiety (sexual performance anxiety) is a common condition that affects all individuals. It is characterized by excessive fear and anxiety about one’s ability to perform with a sexual partner, which can lead to difficulty getting or maintaining an erection, premature ejaculation, or difficulty reaching orgasm.

 

There are a number of potential causes of sexual performance anxiety, including past negative sexual experiences, relationship concerns, low self-esteem, and stress. In some cases, it may also be related to underlying medical conditions or medications.

 

For those looking to address this condition, it is important to speak with a qualified healthcare professional who can help identify the root cause and develop a personalized treatment plan. With the right treatment, individuals can overcome their anxiety and improve their sexual function and satisfaction.

Types Of Sexual Performance Anxiety

There are several types of sexual performance anxiety, each with its own unique causes and symptoms.

Physical

This is characterized by a fear of not being able to physically perform during sexual activity. This can include concerns about erectile dysfunction or difficulty reaching orgasm.

Emotional

This is characterized by a fear of not being able to emotionally connect during sexual activity. This can include concerns about not being able to form a bond with a partner or feeling self-conscious during intimacy.

Anticipatory

This is characterized by a fear of not being able to perform sexually before even engaging in sexual activity. This can include worries about future sexual encounters and can lead to avoidance of sexual activity altogether.

Situational

This is characterized by a fear of not being able to perform sexually in specific situations. This can include concerns about performance in new or unfamiliar sexual situations, or with a new partner.

Causes Of Sexual Performance Anxiety

The symptoms can manifest in different ways, such as difficulty achieving or maintaining an erection, premature ejaculation, or a lack of sexual desire. While there can be a variety of physical, mental, and lifestyle causes for sexual performance anxiety, understanding them is the first step towards overcoming this concern.

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Physical Causes

Physical causes include conditions such as:

 

These conditions can be caused by a variety of factors, including age, diabetes, high blood pressure, and heart disease. In some cases, these conditions may be treated with medication or therapy, but it is important to consult a doctor for proper diagnosis and treatment.

Psychological Causes

Mental health causes include

 

  • Stress

  • Anxiety

  • Depression

  • Relationship concerns

  • Poor body image

These conditions can affect a person’s ability to relax and enjoy sexual activity, making it difficult to achieve or maintain an erection. In some cases, therapy or counseling can help address these underlying concerns and improve sexual performance.

Lifestyle Causes

Lifestyle factors include:

 

  • Smoking

  • Alcohol consumption

  • Lack of physical activity

These factors can affect a person’s overall health and well-being, making it difficult to achieve or maintain an erection. Quitting smoking, cutting back on alcohol, and exercising regularly can all help improve sexual performance and reduce anxiety.

Symptoms Of Sexual Performance Anxiety

Physical Symptoms

Physical symptoms include:

 

  • Erectile dysfunction

  • Premature ejaculation

  • Difficulty achieving orgasm

Psychological Symptoms

Psychological symptoms include:

 

  • Negative thoughts

  • Self-doubt

  • Fear of judgement

Lifestyle Symptoms

Lifestyle symptoms include:

 

  • Avoiding sexual situations

  • Difficulties with communication

  • Relationship concerns

These symptoms can lead to feelings of isolation and a lack of intimacy, which can have a negative impact on overall well-being.

Treating Sexual Performance Anxiety

Treating Sexual Performance Anxiety

There are several treatment options, including:

Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

This type of therapy focuses on identifying and changing negative thought patterns and behaviors that contribute to the symptoms.

Medication

Certain medications, such as antidepressants and phosphodiesterase type 5 inhibitors (PDE5 inhibitors) can improve overall sexual functioning.

Sex therapy

A sex therapist can work with individuals or couples to address concerns related to sexual performance anxiety and provide techniques and strategies for improving sexual functioning.

Relaxation techniques

Deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, and visualization can help improve low sexual performance associated with anxiousness.

Lifestyle changes

Making changes such as exercising regularly, eating healthy, and reducing stress can improve overall health and reduce sexual performance anxiety.

Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety

Sexual performance can lead to a lack of confidence in the bedroom, as well as erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and other sexual dysfunctions. However, there are ways to overcome the symptoms and improve your sexual performance.

Communicate with your partner

One of the most effective ways to overcome anxiousness associated with sex is to communicate openly and honestly with your partner. Talk about your fears, concerns, and expectations, and work together to find solutions.

Practice mindfulness

Mindfulness is the practice of being present in the moment, and it can be incredibly helpful for managing anxiousness. Try to focus on the present moment during sexual activity, rather than worrying about the future or dwelling on the past.

Exercise

Regular exercise is great for reducing anxiety and improving overall health, which can improve sexual performance. Aim for at least 30 minutes of moderate-intensity exercise, such as brisk walking or cycling, three to five times a week.

Get enough sleep

Sleep is essential for overall health, and lack of sleep can lead to increased anxiousness. Aim for at least 7 hours of sleep each night to ensure that your body is well-rested and ready for sexual activity.

Seek help

Consider seeking help from a therapist or counselor. They can help you identify the underlying causes of your performance anxiety and develop a treatment plan that works for you.

 

There is a lot of stigma around this topic, but the condition is much more common than you think and can affect anyone of any age. However, oftentimes, treatment or help is not sought by those experiencing it due to fear of judgement. We’re here to break treatment barriers; professionals can help you, and consulting with one is the first step.

 

To overcome anxiousness related to sexual performance, it is important to address the underlying causes, such as stress and anxiousness. Therapy, counseling, and self-help techniques can be effective in addressing these concerns. Medications may also be prescribed in some cases.

 

We encourage you to focus on self-care and overall well-being. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle, including regular exercise, a balanced diet, and adequate sleep, can help reduce the physical and mental symptoms of sexual performance anxiety and help maintain a healthy sex life.

Sexual health is as important as physical and mental health. In most cases, one consultation can go a long way. Personalised, discreet, and judgement-free treatment at your fingertips – book an online consultation with one of Allo’s leading experts.